The Dance of Healing: A Mirror of Solitude
The quest for self-love begins in the sacred conjunction with the inner self. You are your own path, your own experience, you are life unfolding, and with it comes understanding it, a slow process of learning to see your own self in different ways, in different mirrors.
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| "The hermit" Acrylics on paper |
The Mirror of Solitude
One is, fundamentally, for oneself alone. Though the tapestry of existence is colored by encounters—the sharing, the laughter, the debate, or the tender touch—when night falls and at dawn, one remains their own and only constellation. Often, this inherent solitude is evaded. We flee the encounter with the self because it is a mirror that confronts us with the incessant murmur of our thoughts and the tide of our emotions.
It is there that the painful parcels we have relegated to silence to avoid their weight still pulse. This terror of revelation—of facing the deficiencies, the buried fears, the nameless wound—is why so many evade their own company, for confrontation is the unavoidable gateway to the labor of healing.
In this era of mirages and perpetual distraction, we completely deny ourselves, accumulating in the soul's cellar all that should be closely observed. Everything evaded will ascend to the surface abruptly, like a wordless cry. We will believe it is illness or an adverse fate; we will be blind to the fact that this eruption is the content of the sack of memories we never dared to open.
The simple act of being alone—in the stillness of the self—unearths all that was left unexamined. It emerges in a slow, measured ascent. It requires only the sanctuary of space, the light of attention, and the firm will to heal.
The Empty Canvas and the Fire of Evolution
Think for a moment: we arrive as an empty canvas, yet we are quickly painted by countless hands. This painted image becomes our Ego, the avatar we use to navigate this life.
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| "Becoming" Watercolor on paper |
After a continuous period of soul-shaking pain events, we are forced onto a new path. This is an internal calling, an awakening that arrives only when we’re exhausted by the weight of being a victim and are finally ready to seek a truth that makes sense. It’s an evolution fueled by the deepest discomfort, because the pain is the fire that burns away the unnecessary baggage.
"A dance with the shadow part of ourselves"
The Shadow—a core concept in Jungian psychology.t suggests that true self-acceptance and wholeness don't come from suppressing the negative, undesirable, or hidden aspects of our personality, but from engaging with them.
Understanding the "Shadow"
The Shadow, as defined by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, is the unconscious aspect of the personality that the conscious ego doesn't identify with. It contains everything we deny about ourselves, including:
Negative Traits: Aggression, jealousy, selfishness, fear, or laziness.
Unfulfilled Potential: Talents, urges, or desires that were rejected by our family or society and pushed into the unconscious.
Primitive Instincts: The animalistic or morally ambiguous parts of the human psyche.
The Nature of the "Dance"
The idea of a "dance" implies a dynamic, non-violent engagement rather than a battle:
Acknowledgement: The first step is to recognize the Shadow exists. It often appears when we have intense, irrational reactions to others (which Jung called "projection"). For example, intensely disliking someone's arrogance may be a sign that we've suppressed our own desire for recognition.
Integration (The Dance): The "dance" is the process of bringing these unconscious elements into conscious awareness. It's about saying, "Yes, that part is also me." It doesn't mean acting on every negative impulse, but understanding its source, energy, and message.
Wholeness: By integrating the Shadow, we become a whole person (individuation). The energy previously spent on suppressing these traits is freed up, and the raw power of the Shadow's instincts and creativity can be channeled constructively. When we stop fighting the dark, we can use its power to grow.
In essence, the "dance" is a vital journey toward psychological maturity, where the goal isn't to kill the Shadow, but to treat it as a partner that holds vital, albeit dark, energy necessary for a complete life.
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| Papier Maché, acrylics calaverita and crochet chalina and skirt, paper flowers. |
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| Papier maché, acrylics and crochet hat, scarf and skirt |
Meditation: The Gentle Dissolution of ego
The Ego is not an evil part of us; it is our unpolished diamond. We need it to function in this world. The key is not to destroy it, but to gently guide it.
And this is where meditation becomes your most profound savior.
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| "Meditation" Acrylics on paper |
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| "Meditation" Clay and acrylic paint. |
Meditation is the great healer for the Ego because its process is one of natural dissolution. It is a noble way of the spirit to create an inner space—a quiet void—that naturally clears the damaged parts of the Ego: the stored pain, the false stories, and the history it carries. This unforced process, based on free will, is not one of terrifying death, but of quiet, enjoyable spaciousness.
Through this conscious effort, I healed the primary wounds of my panic attacks, only to realize the healing journey had just begun. Traumas, childhood baggage, and struggles were all imprinted in my pain, woven into the narrative of the victimized self.
The self and its pure state contains peace, harmony and a state of bliss. One can find this path by practicing meditation for it removes the veils of ego.
The Unending Horizon of Healing
So, how do you know when something is truly healed?
In my experience, a wound has transformed when I can speak, write, or share about it with no pain felt. It becomes a tool, a compass used to guide others. If I feel even a flicker of the old hurt, I know that sacred work remains.
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| "Horizon" |
Healing is an ongoing process—we don't arrive at a final destination of perfection. Life continues to offer new experiences, new ways to be challenged. But now, you are stronger. You can rely on past wisdom, and the pain you encounter will be easier to process, like a fire that burns quickly and cleanly.
Finally, we must practice profound gentleness and forgiveness If you find pride in your spiritual achievements or feel superior to others, your Ego is still at the helm. Observe these feelings without judgment. Be kind to yourself. Heal, change, and upgrade without punishment, because no one ever healed through resentment.
The most freeing realization is this: everyone is on their own perfect, unique journey. You don't have to carry anyone else to enlightenment. Your task is to simply observe, heal, change, and let everyone else bloom in their own time.
The Art and Wisdom of Cats
Beyond the inner work of the soul, nothing brings us back to simple, profound acceptance quite like our feline companions. Their inherent dignity and easy comfort perfectly mirror the self-love we seek. As I reflect on my own path, I'm inspired by the wisdom of these "feline zen masters."
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| "My love, my heart" |
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| "Window cat" |
"In ancient times cats were worshipped as gods; they have not forgotten this." — Terry Pratchett
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| "Petunia in zen mode" |
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| Petunia, in the jungle |
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| "My love for cats" Acrylics on paper / Photo |
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| "Love and I" Acrylics on paper |
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| "I Home" Acrylics on paper |
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| "The heart's flight" Acrylics on paper |
